Book birthday! It’s finally here! Charmed Against All Odds is now available! Which means I’ve hit the 20 published books milestone. That’s nonfiction and fiction titles, too. Hubby and I are going out somewhere nice tonight to celebrate, because I never thought I’d have so many published and even more to come. I’ve got plans…!
Now, on to the enchanted charm bracelet featured in Charmed. Each charm represents a characteristic I feel is important in order to have a solid relationship with the one you love. I’ve shared the reasons for why I chose an open book, a Friend charm, a handshake, a Comedy and Tragedy Theater masks, and an arrow charm. The sixth and final charm is a feather or quill.
The quill is an old-fashioned tool for writing with ink to communicate with someone. Letters were the most used form of communicating with people at a distance. If you’ve been following my career or my blog, then you may realize that I adore the 18th century as a time period to write about. My A More Perfect Union series is set in Charleston, South Carolina during the American Revolution in 1782. At that time the quill was the best tool for writing.
Communication is extremely important in any relationship, from professional to personal. Clear personal communication depends on several of the other characteristics I’ve talked about in my previous posts about the charms: honesty, trust, friendship, and being open to learning about the other person’s opinions and experiences. I suppose to some extent those characteristics also apply to professional communication as well. Let’s look at each a bit more closely.
Honesty feeds the content of your conversation or letter, whatever mode of communication you’re using. If your message is not telling the truth as you see it, then doubt and allegations of lying may follow (as opposed to a misinterpretation or honest mistake). To have a solid relationship, therefore, when you speak or write to your significant other, it’s important to be honest.
You also must trust the other person, and they trust you, in order for your message to be accepted. If you can’t trust the other person for whatever reason, likely your communication will be more guarded, perhaps hedging your words more to protect yourself. This can weaken the bond between you and your significant other.
I include friendship here because if you’re in a loving relationship friendship is most likely at the foundation of the link between you. And it seems to naturally evolve from the first two characteristics of trust and honesty.
Finally, being open-minded is important to have a good communication because if you’re not then you’re probably not hearing, listening, or receiving the real message being sent. Errors in intent or meaning may then occur because the close-minded person has already decided how they will react to the perceived message. Probably negatively since they’ve stopped accepting what’s being conveyed. Actively listening or reading with an eye to understanding the other’s point of view will smooth any misunderstandings that may arise through a garbled message. We all mistakes sometimes in how we phrase something or our interpretation of what’s happened and then make assumptions.
Case in point. I came home from a quick trip to Texas on a stormy Sunday evening. My son’s car wasn’t parked where he normally parks, on the left side of the driveway. Instead he’d parked in my spot on the right side. I knew he and my hubby were aware I was almost home and I was glad to see I could park closer to the sidewalk and run inside from the rain. I thought he’d moved his car out of courtesy. In fact, he’d thought I wasn’t going to be home so had parked in my spot so that my hubby could run an errand (he parks in the garage on the left side of the driveway). So I had totally misunderstood the situation but was still happy to have a shorter distance to get inside. (Don’t think badly about the fact I park outside and hubby parks inside. He’s the one that has to get up and go to work each morning while I walk into my office, so I suggested he park in the garage so he doesn’t have to face the weather and such.)
One other point I’d like to make about communication. You must communicate with your significant other. Not talking, sending an email, a letter, a paper airplane with your message will almost definitely lead to a breakdown in your relationship. We’re very imaginative beings so when something confuses or annoys or upsets us we can find any number of “reasons” which may or may not be the real underlying cause. It’s far easier to have a conversation and clear up the mystery or misunderstanding than to let it simmer until it explodes into a fight. Even if that conversation is difficult to have—and trust me my hubby and I have had several in the 38 years we’ve known each other, including 32 years married—working out the differences can bring you closer together. You’ll see the other perspective and hopefully understand the other point of view, and vice versa. Then you find a compromise.
I do hope you’ll read Charmed Against All Odds and then let me know what you think of Leo and Roxie’s story.
I’m heading out for a nice dinner with my loving, supportive, sometimes frustratingly stubborn husband. And as always, thanks for reading!
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Charmed Against All Odds is now available!
Charmed Against All Odds is also part of the Common Elements Romance Project. More than 75 romances—historical, sci fi, fantasy, contemporary, paranormal, suspense—which include the same 5 elements. Those elements are a guy named Max, a lost set of keys, a tall stack of books, a haunted house, and a lightning storm. Visit the website for a listing of all the books by subgenre and for monthly giveaways.
Loving her brings out the magic in him…
Wedding bells are ringing, but not for Roxie Golden. If she can survive another round of wedding plans, then her life can return to normal. She’s perfectly happy running the bookstore and weaving helpful magical spells. Then one stormy day, her ex-fiancé strolls back into her life with a gift neither of them wants.
Leo King wants to flee the small town for the big city. Forget about the shame he brought upon himself when he abused his magical powers. First, to satisfy his warlock father’s final wish, he must deliver the mysterious box to Roxie’s bookstore.
But when Roxie opens the box, revealing an enchanted bracelet and a quest spell, their plans and their lives are changed forever. Trapped in a reluctant partnership with the woman he once loved, he risks everything—including his heart—for a second chance.